A Stone in Hand

We create tension in our lives every time we stray from the moment, splitting our attention between the reality we are living and the life we want.

We let go of who we are for who we want to be. And we want it to happen overnight, if not immediately.

As Mark Nepo says, we are trying to “feel the stone and not the ripple.”

We set our sights beyond where we are, looking down the road before we take the first step. It is not long before we stumble and maybe falter altogether.

It is easy to stay stuck in the beyond, forgoing the now.

We want the stone of certainty without riding the ripple of uncertainty. We must bring our board, the person we are, and ride the risk.


To ride the ripple requires focus, our attention never swerving until the stone is in hand–whatever reality that may represent.

A stone in hand is not the only reward for riding risk.

Each time we stay in the moment— meet the reality we are in—we gain understanding of yet another facet of what it is to be who we are–our authentic self–in every moment.

That we stray from the moment is not surprising.

The more crucial thing is that we return.


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  1. This is the first time I have heard the distinction between the stone and the ripple. Timely for me Karen. I notice many ripples being averted in everyday unconsciousness 💕


    1. As you may have noted, your comment had me take another look at the stone and the ripple. Thank you for that. The distinction between the stone and the ripple helps me recognize my tendency to avert, and I bring myself back to the flow. It’s a lifetime practice, of course. Your thoughtful and thought-provoking comment is much appreciated. Thanks, Val.

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