So I started considering “A Stone in Hand” as the total experience of a single moment. It is not ours to hold onto forever; no experience ever stays.
In moving from one moment to another, we ride a ripple, letting go of one in order to experience the next.
The three difficulties (or the three difficult practices) are:
1. to recognize your neurosis as neurosis,
2. then not to do the habitual thing but
to do something different to interrupt
the neurotic habit, and
3. to make this practice a way of life
We invest in our neuroses, make them habits. They are hard to give up; it means we must change. When we stop ourselves—even mid-habit–we begin to let go of our neurosis. We move into the experience of the next moment, unencumbered.
It is a lifelong practice, to move gently into and out of our neuroses, to catch the next ripple and ride.