It is tenderness that moves us through the pain we are carrying. Loving-kindness frees us from our fear. It is the first step in separating ourselves from suffering.
We may be raw, vulnerable, but we are no longer clinging to or running from pain. The exhausting emotional drama ends. In its wake is the energy of equanimity, joy on the horizon.
Compassion, loving-kindness, and equanimity are revolutionary acts, inciting change within to bear fruit in the outside world. Only when we change do we plant such seeds.
Look at the alternative: exchanging one snarky comment for another or ramping up anger and fear just because…. Truly, greater suffering there but no great joy possible.
Emotions are so powerful and so useful when stripped of anger and judgment—the stuff of ego. What remains is ego-less energy–gratitude, compassion, loving-kindness, equanimity–the path to joy.
When some moment in life grabs us so fiercely we are forced to face it head-on, we know the tender revolution has begun yet again, Our perspective is about to broaden. Usually, that means upheaval–suffering yes but oh, the joy.
One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.
Thanks to Caroline Johnson for the St. Augustine reference.