No Neat Definitions

Truth and boundaries, sometimes a firm and other times fluid relationship, ever a reconciliation.  

You shouldn’t fear boundaries, but you should not

be afraid of destroying them. That’s what is

most important if you want to be free:

respect for and exasperation with boundaries.

Haruki Murakami 

We want a fixed relationship, a boundary to frame our truth, a neat definition. Yet, our own eyes are never the same in their sight.

While I may have some physical resemblance to the person I was 20 years ago, there remains only awareness of boundaries I once maintained. Boundaries sag when truths no longer fit. turtle-row-in-fall-1013

As Maya Angelou said, when I know better, I do better. It is not always a pleasant feeling, that moment of freedom.

Destroying a boundary is its own dilemma: I want to change but I want to stay the same, too. Truth is not fixed but free and yes, exasperating. I hold it in high regard.

Not a one of us is the person we were five minutes ago. Not a one. We might as well be a bit gentle with each other.

Aim for Even posts offer equanimity in daily doses. No day or dose is ever the same, even if the aim is. You may read about the origins of Aim for Even here or on this site’s About page. 




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